Coaching
Kate
is the most sincere,
caring, compassionate
person I know.
female,
36
I feel empowered in
a way I never felt.
female,
38
I am not aware of
any alternatives that
would deliver anything
close to the results
I am getting.
male,
52
What’s changed
is that I’m happy.
female,
36
Do
you love your life exactly
the way it is?
If
the answer is no, then
probably you yearn for
something more.
And
chances are you don't
know exactly what that
something more is.
O r
maybe you know, but
you don't know how to
bring it into your life.
Coaching
gets you out of that
rut. (And that rut is
probably hurting you,
because being stuck
about your life is soul-numbing,
isn't it? I bet you
can feel it. It often
feels like a dull, pervasive
hurt.)
Together,
we build a warm, encouraging
partnership, the whole
purpose of which is
to support you in creating
the life you want.
One-on-one,
couple, or group sessions--conducted
on the phone or in-person--help
you define and move
toward the life you
want.
For
twenty-five years, I
have helped hundreds
of people, nationwide,
to discover their true
paths. The result? A
happier, more peaceful,
and satisfying life.
Why? Because everything
fits once you’re
on course.
Through phone sessions,
individuals and couples
(and soon, thanks to
teleconferencing, groups)
discover their life
unique life purpose.
We reach a mutual understanding
about your priorities,
first. Along the way,
we stage a variety of
steps to help you move
toward what you want.
My experience and intuition
help me ask the right
questions, provide thoughtful
guidance, and offer
“experiments”
for you to try as you
transform and refine
your life, inside and
out, as needed.
I hope you will find
your questions answered
below and through the
topics linked on the
left. Please feel free
to contact
me by
email or telephone if
you need further clarification.
Let's
get the job done!
Blessings
to you.
Warmly,
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What’s
the Difference Between
Coaching
and Counseling or Therapy
Basically,
it’s pretty simple.
But please bear in mind
that I am not an expert
in these distinctions
and if you really need
this sorted out, please
consult an expert.
Therapy and Counseling
were once broadly defined
fields that included a
variety of practices,
including the kind of
work that is now called
coaching.
But over the years, counseling
and therapy have become
narrowly defined fields
that are now based on
the medical model of illness
and treatment that can
be reimbursed with health
insurance.
Simply put, therapy and
counseling are now about
healing damaging and painful
material from the past.
Coaching is for mentally
healthy individuals who
are interested in building
a more satisfying future.
Of course coaching is
not reimbursable by health
insurance.
Unless
a person truly is mentally
ill, there are important
considerations to take
into account when considering
seeing a therapist or
counselor. My understanding
is that if health insurance
is paying for the treatment,
chances are that the practitioner
must diagnose the “patient”
with some form of mental
illness and submit a treatment
plan and a reports on
how the treatment is going.
My understanding--and
I am no expert--is that
the possibility exists
that this information
will go into a national
database that may affect
future employment and
acceptance for health
insurance.
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Why
do I Need Coaching?
My
work with Kate led
me back to myself.
female,
42
Through
my work with Kate,
I learned how to use
my strength in the
service of my vision.
female,
48
Before
I met Kate my life
felt stressful and
exhausting. Kate helped
me to see the patterns
of my life and behavior
that contributed to
those feelings. She
helped me to find
answers within myself.
Now my life feels
satisfying and fulfilling.
female,
44
Perhaps
a better question might
be: what would help
you decide whether or
not you want coaching?
I
developed the questionnaire
below to help you think
about your life and
whether or not coaching
with me can help you.
I say "with me"
because different coaches
are specialize in different
things.
I
have a very broad range
— and, more importantly
— depth of skills
because I've been doing
this work in one form
or another for over
thirty years (I started
apprenticing as a teen-ager,
when what were then
called "values
clarification"
and T-groups were being
born).
You
could say that even
when when I’m working
with someone on a very
external issue —
the specifics around
changing careers, for
example — I'm coaching
that person from the
inside out. In other
words, my specialty
is bringing your outer
life into alignment
with your inner self,
your spirit.
I
work much more deeply
and thoroughly than
many coaches do. That
may be my most important
and best feature —
or worst if you’re
used to dodging issues!
When you work with me,
if you are fully committed
to the work, chances
are we are going to
get the job done. Some
people don’t realize
how powerful self-sabotage
patterns can be. I do.
And you will too, if
we decide work together.
You’ll find you
what your tricks are
for blocking your own
progress, and you’ll
learn what works for
you in dealing with
them.
I
work with Kate because
she has that gift
of knowing me better
than I know myself.
Kate works really
hard to know me at
my deepest levels.
Her efforts really
pay off for me, because
I can better understand,
for example, the obstacles
I put in my way. I
don't stay mired in
confusion -- most
often, Kate illuminates
an issue for me that
I could not quite
grasp. Thus, we work
through the difficult
issues more quickly,
and get to the "good
stuff" (What
do I want? How can
I get it? Why am I
here? How can I contribute?)
faster?
female,
42
Kate’s
insight, combined
with her unique ability
to both challenge
and nurture, has helped
me move beyond obstacles
and become the woman
I most want to be.
I feel empowered in
a way I never felt.
female,
38
I
work with Kate because
she’s very special
at what she does. She
isn’t bound by
the conventions of the
therapist/psychiatrist/empowerment
professional culture.
Her willingness to get
right in there isn't
what other folks do.
female,
42
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COACHING
QUIZ
Here's
a coaching quiz I developed
to help you see where
you are in your life,
which in turn can help
you evaluate whether
or not you want coaching.
Since
both this page and the
quiz are both rather
long, click
here to open the quiz
in a new and easily
printable window.
(It should be immensely
gratifing to compare
your answers now with
your answers after coaching.)
So
how did you do on the
quiz? Feel like you
need help?
Sometimes
friends and loved ones
can and will help. At
other times,
THIS
IS WHERE COACHING COMES
IN...
Your
Coaching Process: How
I Can Help You
If
you and I form a coaching
relationship, we can
- create
a working partnership
in which together
we can identify
and draw on the
your innate talents
and the strengths
you have already
developed (yes,
there are plenty
of those, and soon
you'll be able to
name more than you
can now)
- identify
possible priorities
and consider the
implications of
tackling each, and
in what order.
- when
you're clear where
you want to begin,
identify possible
approaches and choose
the best for now
- create
a schedule
- check in on your
process frequently
to see what's working
and
what is isn't (one
of the big benefits
of the coaching
process is that
you can become far
more knowledgeable
about which ways
of working suit
you which don't.
You
get the idea. We can go
in any number of directions.
And since, as Dr. Phil
says, “This ain’t
my first rodeo,”
I have several very large
bags of tricks to bring
to the party that can
help us stay on track
as the changes you desire
begin to show up in your
life.
How
Long Does Coaching Take?
How
long it takes to get
through a particular
coaching task depends
on the person and the
task.
However,
my experience is that
the most effective work,
the work that satisfies
the client the most,
takes a significant
time commitment. You
can try, but you probably
won’t be able to
talk me into a commitment
of less than six months.
I do occasionally work
short term, but not
unless I can see how
it could be effective.
Actually, I prefer a
commitment of a year.
Of course, it is an
organic process and
nothing is set in stone.
We will set up a contract
that can be broken by
either of us with four
weeks notice.
Why
do I like a longer time
commitment? Because
we live in such an unusual
time, a time in which,
in my opinion, we are
experiencing an evolutionary
shift in human consciousness.
Unlike our parents and
their ancestors back
at least 5,000 years,
most of us can’t
go to the elders in
our blood lines and
communities for advice
or help with what we’re
up against today, because
they never had to deal
with the things we value.
For
example, if we want to
raise children, we don’t
need partners nearly as
much as our mothers did.
We have different priorities.
We want soul mates at
least as much as we want
good providers. We want
equality. We want out
mates to communicate with
us on a feeling level.
We want to know how to
bust out of the glass
ceiling trap. We want
the same business skills,
respect, and money that
men have. We want to be
fully rounded, whole,
satisfied, productive
human beings who are making
a difference.
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“Where
is she going with this?”
you ask. My experience
is that to keep a coach
around for these issues
is a very good idea.
That’s what I do:
I’ve been with
mine for over ten years.
In my favorite--and
most successful--relationships
with clients, we work
together intensively
in the beginning to
get their lives into
basic balance, then
we go on maintenance
for awhile, which could
mean we’re not
in touch very often
or could mean we keep
up our frequency because
it feels right for whatever
reason. Then an exciting
opportunity presents
itself or the client
changes in an important
way or life smacks them
around a little, and
it’s back to more
intensive work for awhile.
I have several clients
with whom I have worked
for ten years or more--on
and off as above, and
those are the most all-around
satisfied people I have
ever known.
In
1999, I had to cut my
practice in half and
hide under a rock in
order to finish The
Hundredth Woman. But
as of now, I’m
ready to open my practice
again and there are
several spaces available--an
unusual situation for
me since I typically
have a waiting list.
I’d
say, if you’re
intrigued, let’s
get going now, while
there is space available.
To
Set a Coaching Appointment
Women
who read The
Hundredth Woman
may be inspired to change
their own lives, yet
might feel confused
about how to go about
that. If you would like
help creating a life
you love, please contact
me at coaching@hundredthwoman.com
and I will either work
with you myself or refer
you to someone whom
I have trained.
Click
here to read what Kate's
coaching clients are
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